Month: Nov 2012
I don’t know why but for some weeks — maybe even for a number of months — I’ve had this “nothing to lose and everything to live for” feeling. It has come upon me as I’ve wandered on clifftops, looked into the faces of lost souls in the street, loved as if there is no tomorrow and seen through the schemes of gamesters. It’s like I’m standing on the edge of a friendly but mysterious and deliciously-threatening ocean in which I love to swim. It means I can allow myself to do the most outrageous things imaginable, to say whatever the hell I want to anyone and be damned. (Though I do it all with love). And if anyone wants to wallow in disapproval then tough shit. They’re gone. I don’t want anyone around me, or to be involved with anyone, who can’t think for themselves and go out on a limb with me. Away with all killjoys, cowards, drag-downs, hypocrites, bores, pedlars of mediocrity, ditherers, truth-twisters, yawn-makers, those who never cry and those who fall for the Lie. If you don’t have wings (or, if you don’t have any yet, if don’t want to fly on my back), goodbye. I seek out people with a vision and a twinkle of adventure in their eye and a do-it-or-be-damned in their sigh. (Though I will always scoop up in my arms the weak, the oppressed, the hurting, the afflicted, the lonely and all those who are ignorant but want to learn). Life is too short for anything else…
There is living deep and there is *playing* at living deep; and they are as different as chalk and cheese. You can tick all the right boxes — yoga/meditation retreats, past lives therapy, consciousness workshops, dynamic aura classes, energy channeling and spirit awareness evenings or any other similar groups — but these are just delusional, trendy, peer-group-oriented, approval-seeking, brainwashing, mind-controlling time-fillers a) if you can’t run deep without them and b) if you subsequently can’t discern the difference between truth and falsehood and c) if you subsequently think it’s “negative” to discern the difference between good and evil.
May I never have my knees securely underneath
the fleeting table of this present world
(imagining it to be the only thing there is).
May I never live without a dream adventure
taking me to distant reaches way beyond
where I have ever been before
May I never follow spineless grey neutrality
but always with the utmost clarity
may I refuse to take the level easy way,
instead to walk on stony tree-lined unworn
bridalpaths where mediocrity and other
strange hypocrisies can have no sway
May I never blindly chase deluded dreams
become involved in others’ pointless schemes
but always act on what my heart finds fit and
never blind conform to peer group force or
follow only social norms or governments,
small perspectives, socially engineered directives
May I never compromise my choice of sacred art
but always wilfully refuse to waver or depart
from what I hold as precious to my soul
and never be manipulated through some guilt
and always have a broad-lipped inner smile —
refuse to do things just because of style
May I, when dead, be coolly found upon some
crazy dangerous ledge, the farthest hardest edge
or mountain-top or bubble-boiling molten rock.
But most of all may I refuse to be a clone —
integrity intact, uncompromised in fact
regretful only of the countless woely times
this man has been so foolishly sidetracked
© 2012, Alan Morrison
My dreams are becoming increasingly (sur)real and far out these days. Last night I dreamed I was on a bed in someone’s house very conscious of my lonely, rootless, troubadour existence and wondering how much longer I could do this. I looked over towards my computer and an attachment had arrived which was a new variety which actually materalised (like a hologram only more corporeal) in front of the screen. It consisted of a smorgasbord of domestic plants with flowers on a platter. They were lovely to behold. I moved closer. Suddenly, they started wilting in an accelerated manner and then decaying into brown dry matter, then into powder and dust which just disappeared. Not just the plants but their containers too and the platter. Then I noticed that the same process started with everything else in the room — the plants, the furniture, carpets, my instruments, everything began to decay as if in a speeded-up process of decomposition and dissolution. It was as if the attachment was a contagion. Once everything around me (including the walls and buildings) had turned to dust and nothingness within the space of what seemed like a minute or so, I realised that only I was left. Then I, too, began to dissolve and, of course, as I did so I woke up… disappointed that I hadn’t been there to witness the conclusion — a participant observer of my own disintegration. What an edgy concept!
TODAY IN THE UK it is what is known as Remembrance Sunday – commemorating the end of the First World War. People gather round cenotaphs with grave expressions and dark clothes and then lay wreaths of poppies and say: “Thank you, boys, for giving your lives for us”. WHAT A LIE THAT IS! They didn’t give their lives for anything other than the evil stupidity of the power elite. One of my two favourite poets, Wilfred Owen, was the greatest war poet of that war. I feel as if I know him as my own brother. He has made me weep more times than any other poet. He was an officer in the army and died at 25 years old in a battle just 7 days before the end of the war. In October 1917, he wrote a poem called “Dulce et Decorum Est”, in which he graphically describes a soldier in the death throes of having been gassed in the trenches. The final two lines speak of “the old lie” (in the smug Latin of the upper classes) which says: “It is sweet and glorious to die for their country”. Here is the whole poem:
Dulce et Decorum Est
by Wilfred Owen
Bent double, like old beggars under sacks,
Knock-kneed, coughing like hags, we cursed through sludge,
Till on the haunting flares we turned our backs
And towards our distant rest began to trudge.
Men marched asleep. Many had lost their boots
But limped on, blood-shod. All went lame; all blind;
Drunk with fatigue; deaf even to the hoots
Of tired, outstripped Five-Nines that dropped behind.
Gas! Gas! Quick, boys!—An ecstasy of fumbling,
Fitting the clumsy helmets just in time;
But someone still was yelling out and stumbling
And flound’ring like a man in fire or lime…
Dim, through the misty panes and thick green light,
As under a green sea, I saw him drowning.
In all my dreams, before my helpless sight,
He plunges at me, guttering, choking, drowning.
If in some smothering dreams you too could pace
Behind the wagon that we flung him in,
And watch the white eyes writhing in his face,
His hanging face, like a devil’s sick of sin;
If you could hear, at every jolt, the blood
Come gargling from the froth-corrupted lungs,
Obscene as cancer, bitter as the cud
Of vile, incurable sores on innocent tongues,—
My friend, you would not tell with such high zest
To children ardent for some desperate glory,
The old Lie: Dulce et decorum est
Pro patria mori.
I’m so glad I don’t spend my life “happy”. Why on earth would anyone want to be happy all the time? One loses so much when one only experiences happiness. In fact, I think most “happiness” is completely fake — either induced by chemical substances, escapism, pseudo-therapy, false experiences or fantasy. Actually, come to think of it, I don’t want to be happy at all. It’s so superficially mindless and a sure way to dampen genuine inspiration and creativity. I will, however, treasure times of joy; relish experiences of awe; delight in moments of ecstasy; cherish the cyclic cradle of contentment. But I will never be seduced by the smug smiles of the advertising industry or the forever-grinning faces of positive-thinking pundits, ‘coaches’, ‘mentors’ and other salespeople of 21st century quackery. This is not to say that I will seek out sadness. It will come — inevitably and often through some sudden grief. But I will never seek it out. Neither will I wallow in it when it does come. I will let it work its way through and out of me as quickly and as beneficially as possible. I will, however, welcome the fertile mists of melancholy; for that is the mother of inspiration, the twin-sister of profundity and the teaching-tool of the Muse.
There’s one thing which is worse than being despised
and that’s when one becomes misunderstood.
Far worse than getting merely ostracised
or any other kind of victimhood.
At least when someone hates you there’s a chance
that spite can be extensively turned round;
whereas misunderstanding is a stance
which means that no solution can be found.
However, looking back across the years
one sees a pattern in the paradigm:
Most artists or freethinking pioneers
were seldom comprehended at the time.
Does this reflect your life-theme perfectly?
If so, rejoice! You’re in good company!
© 2012, Alan Morrison
Here’s a little bit of helpful information for anyone planning on engaging the services of small businesses in Sweden. Although this information is plainly applicable anywhere in the world, I and other non-Swedish people with whom I have discussed this have discovered it to be especially applicable in Sweden. I’ve done quite a bit of business in my life (not as a business person but as a creative artist purchasing services for my work) and — being an idealist — I have often made the mistake of doing it like a hippie, thinking that I can trust people in the world of the arts and in those lines of work connected with the arts. I’m telling you these things so you don’t make the same mistakes as I have.
Firstly and foremost, always insist on a formal quotation for work in writing — preferably, get it as detailed as possible in a signed and dated contract. If they won’t give you the information you want in the way that you want it, then they’re bullshitting you. Just walk away.
If you’re dealing with greedy unprofessional people or scammers (they often behave in similar ways), the first “quote” you’ll receive for work will be a very bare one without any tax added or other extras. Do NOT settle for that. Always ask the question: “Is this the final figure that I will have to pay? If not, what are the extras?” You see, such people will always quote you a figure without tax. I can guarantee this. They know exactly what they’re doing. They’re trying to make their quote seem as small as possible so you will accept it. They’re hoping you won’t even bring it up at all, until you get the bill, by which time it’s too late for you to get out. This means that what they’re quoting you is up to 25% less than the real figure that you will pay. That is one quarter of the bill! They will not give you the figure and then immediately say “plus tax” and then tell you how much that would be too (which would be the honest and professional thing to do). That will be concealed from you. You will actually have to ask them: “Does that figure include tax?” and only then will they be forced to admit that it doesn’t.
In any case, the whole tax thing is a bit of a joke as far as greedy unprofessional people or scammers are concerned for I can guarantee almost with certainty that they won’t be paying any tax themselves on your payment! Therefore, adding tax to their quoted figure is just a way of bumping up the price even more and making an extra 20-25% out of you which will never be paid as tax by them.
Make sure that you also ask what extra expenses are involved. Get it all formally in writing. Leave nothing to a mere verbal agreement or something in some casual email exchange or spoken about in an internet chat. Ask for a written statement or contract formally signed and dated with all fees, taxes and extras mentioned, otherwise you will get a terrible shock when their bill finally arrives. That I can guarantee.
If you are given a quote involving an hourly rate rather than a single figure for the whole job, then make sure they also tell you how many hours the work is going to take and get that in writing. This is crucial, for otherwise they can make the job take as long as they like (which is tantamount to giving them permission to print money for themselves at your expense), drain all your resources and you will have no comeback at them whatsoever. For a short job, lasting a day or two, an hourly rate is acceptable. But if the job is going to take much longer than that then they should really give you a single-figure quote rather than an hourly one. This is the professional way to do business; so if they don’t or won’t do business like that then they are unprofessional, to say the least, or greedy or planning to scam you.
If, when you ask them how many hours the job will involve, they say they can’t possibly answer that, just walk away. Immediately. Any genuine professional can estimate how long a job will take. It may take a bit of work but they can do it. They should really be able to give you a complete figure for the whole job. This is how professional business is done. If they start waffling about how every job is different so they can’t tell you how long it will take, then it’s either because they don’t want to (so they can keep their options open and get as much money out of you as possible) or they simply don’t have enough experience in their line of work to know what is involved in the job. Either way, you’re going to be scammed, so just say goodbye and walk away. It’s that easy. Walking away from greedy unprofessional people or scammers at that stage of the game will save you a vast amount of money. It could make the difference between your solvency and your bankruptcy.
You should be aware that if you try to question anything later down the line (for example, when you receive a bill from them which makes your hair stand on end!) they will not try to reassure you or receive your queries with a good customer service attitude. Instead, they will be angry and belligerent and try to put the blame back on you. I can absolutely guarantee this. They will claim that there were all sorts of hidden extras which they had not foreseen. Then they will try to make you feel guilty for not trusting them — for daring to question them. They will accuse you of being awkward – of being a difficult client (no matter how friendly, tentative or conciliatory you try to be with your queries). The very fact that you are questioning their business methods will trigger a surprisingly unpleasant response. This is a classic sociopathic kind of reaction and it will shock you. In fact, it’s designed to shock you because they are determined to get their own way (i.e. to get as much money out of you as possible) and they will accept no obstructions. If you thought you had a good relationship with the business person up to that point, that illusion will instantly crumble. You will see another side of them which is ‘Jekyll and Hyde’ in its nature.
It reminds me of an incident I experienced as a child. A schoolfriend went around bragging that he had found gold of great value buried in the grounds of his apartment block. Smelling a rat, I doubted his story and went to check. Finding a patch of earth which had been recently disturbed, I dug it up and there was a hoard of ordinary stones painted gold. (My motto has always been “Leave no stone unturned!” ;-). When I told him (in a friendly and not a sneering way) that I knew the truth about his “gold” he went completely mental and physically attacked me with fists flying, accusing me of trespass and theft and lies.
This is a sociopathic pattern I have seen repeated many times when those who behave dishonestly are questioned by others about their dishonesty. This applies also to business people whose methods are greedy, unprofessional and not upstanding. Even though they refused to have any kind of detailed written contract with you, they will accuse you of not sticking to your (albeit verbal or casual) arrangement with them, of withholding money from them. They will try to make you feel like a criminal who is not honouring his or her obligations. They are very adept at this. It is a vital part of their Modus Operandi to intimidate you into the passive acceptance of their dissembling business practice. They will even turn round to you and say things like “I knew I should have made a contract with you in the first place but I mistakenly trusted you”. Yes! Even though it was them who didn’t give you a contract and who deliberately concealed the true cost of the work (which they knew would be enormous). They are so good at twisting things. This is crazy stuff! You would almost think that they’d had psychological training specialising in how to turn the tables on anyone who questions their business methods. Remember, they will never under any circumstances admit to being in the wrong or behaving unacceptably. It will all be a case of you trying to avoid your obligations and refusing to pay for services rendered. So all you can do at that stage is comply with what they want, which of course is their aim. If, at that point, you decide to challenge them and refuse to pay their extortionate fees unless they negotiate a reasonable figure, claiming that they are guilty of malpractice, they will go ballistic and threaten you will all kinds of legal redress and how they will spread it around that you are a debtor and absconder. This is a pattern I have both personally experienced and been told about by others in a similar position many times.
The bottom line is this: A true professional in business will insist on making a written, signed and dated quotation/contract with you. You have every right to be naive and unwitting and the onus is definitely on them, as business professionals, to ensure that you cannot be exploited or deceived in any way by going ahead and putting everything formally in writing in a contract. That is how they should want it to be. The very fact that they don’t is a sign at the outset of their dishonesty. They shouldn’t wait to see if you don’t ask for a written quotation/contract and then go on to accept that without a murmur. Such behaviour is a form or professional misconduct and puts the client potentially at risk. In fact, it reminds me of the people who say that a woman who wears revealing clothing in the street deserves to be raped. “She asked for it!” as they say. So if a business person, after scamming you, says “Well it’s your own fault for not asking for a contract at the beginning or for agreeing to an agreed hourly rate”, they are behaving like the people who say that a woman who wears revealing clothing and is raped gets what she deserves. Your naivete should never be a good enough reason for them to scam you or milk you of your resources. So I say again that the onus is on them to ensure that all is done correctly. However, because so many business people are not real professionals and are not wholly honest and are out to get as much out of you as they can, then it behoves the client to ask for what is not being provided: a detailed, written, signed and dated quotation/contract which is binding.
I’m sharing all this so you are forewarned and forearmed. It isn’t only me who has experienced this but many that I know. Please do not assume that everyone is essentially good and honest, especially in the world of the arts. They are not. If people in business won’t provide you with the information you want and if they won’t give you a detailed, formal, written inventory of the costs as representing the final figure which you will have to pay, then just walk away or you will be in a mess financially and regret that you ever did business with them. Being able to say no or walk away from potentially draining or harmful experiences in life before they happen is one of the most important and empowering lessons we can learn.
One final note. When people in business behave like that, they are “cutting off their noses to spite their faces”; because by treating you in this manner they will not only lose your business but also the potential business of all those to whom you would have recommended them if they had behaved themselves. They are so short-sighted that they cannot see that they would have made far more money from their business transaction with you if they had gained your trust through the time-honoured business practice of “goodwill”. Goodwill in business means good sales service, good work practice and good after-sales service coupled with total transparency. Goodwill and helpful customer service are at the heart of a successful business. Very many small businesses flounder and fail because of greed and/or malpractice, when they could have been flourishing if they had thought in the long-term instead of the short-term. Myopia is not a useful quality in the world of business.
I hope you have found the caveats in this article helpful. I wish I had taken them onboard myself a long time ago! Thanks for reading. Feel free to share this with whoever you want.
© Alan Morrison, 2012